Work with me

What makes working with me different

I don't work the way most couples therapists do.

1. I'm a couples therapist and a coach and I work in a very precise and concise way towards a clear goal.

For many couples in traditional couples therapy, you can find yourself coming to sessions week after week, not really knowing what you're working on, and how long it's going to take or how much it will cost.

I don't work like this.

When you sign up for a program with me, there's a clear goal, a clear path, and a clear, finite time and money commitment. We track your progress and I keep you accountable to becoming the best version of yourself.

2. I prefer to work with you in a 12-week program that's focused on the specific challenges you're facing in your relationship, and on a measurable, achievable outcome in 12 weeks.

(This is for couples who want results and want to heal their relationship in the fastest and most effective way. You're also welcome to come for fortnightly sessions and not be signed up to a program if this is what you want. You get to decide how deep and fast you want to go.)

Why my 12-week program gets the best results

Power Struggle to Peace is a 12-week program for couples who are in the Power Struggle – which is 99% of couples who contact me.

It's for couples who are struggling with:
– constant bickering and fighting
– anger displays
– a lack of warmth and understanding
– the love feels like it has gone.

Couples that work with me in program with a clear goal get the best results because:

• There's a beginning and an end.
• You're both clear about the goal you're working towards.
• You get a mix of couples therapy and coaching which accelerates your progress.
• There's more accountability because you check in with me twice a week.
• You know the total cost of your investment because it's a flat fee based on the number of sessions and coaching.
• You'll gather momentum with weekly sessions and mid-week check-ins. More proximity with me allows you to collapse time, see how I think and expand your worldview.
• The certainty of knowing the above makes it easier for you to commit to the work to be done to achieve our goal.

'How do we know this is going to work for us?'

Sadly, many couples who go to  therapy drop out, saying...

"Couples therapy doesn't work for us."

These couples either struggle on together unhappily for years or decades, have an affair or file for divorce.

However, the actual problem was that in conventional couples therapy there's often a lack of clarity and direction.

What actually happened:

• The therapist and method wasn't right for you.
• Many couples therapists are generalists and haven't specifically trained to work with couples
• You didn't do the depth of work you needed to, to experience a profound change.

This always makes me feel sad as a therapist, because I know this couple didn't find out in time what the Power Struggle was...

...or that it's a logical, inevitable stage in all relationships...

and that, with the right tools, they can learn to get the positivity and safety back into their relationship.