Work with me

What makes working with me different

I don't work the way most couples therapists do.
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1. I'm a couples therapist and a coach and I work in a very precise and concise way towards a clear goal. For this reason I prefer to work with you in a program which is themed on the specific challenges you're facing in your relationship. However you're also able to come for fortnightly sessions and not be signed up to a program if this is what you want. You get to decide how deep and fast you want to go.
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2. For many couples in traditional couples therapy, you can find yourself coming to sessions week after week, not really knowing what you're working on, and how long it's going to take or how much it will cost.
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I don't work like this.

When you sign up for a program with me, there's a clear goal, a clear path, and a clear, finite time and money commitment. We track your progress and I keep you accountable to becoming the best version of yourself.

Why a program will give you better results

This is for a couple who want more support, proximity and personal touchpoints with me.

My 3-month program is available for couples who are struggling with constant bickering and fighting, anger displays, a lack of warmth and understanding and the love feels like it's gone.

A 6-month program is available for couples where there has been an affair.

Couples that work with me in program with a clear goal get the best results because:

• There's a beginning and an end.
• You're both clear about the goal you're working towards.
• You get a mix of couples therapy and coaching which accelerates your progress.
• There's more accountability because you check in with me twice a week.
• You know the total cost of your investment because it's a flat fee based on the number of sessions and coaching.
• You'll gather momentum with weekly sessions and mid-week check-ins. More proximity with me allows you to collapse time, see how I think and expand your worldview.
• The certainty of knowing the above makes it easier for you to commit to the work to be done to achieve our goal.

'How do we know this is going to work for us?'

Sadly, many couples who go to  therapy drop out, concluding that 'couples therapy doesn't work for us' and either struggle on together unhappily for years (or decades)have an affair and/ or file for divorce. However, the actual problem was that in traditional couples therapy there's often a lack of clarity and direction. The therapist and method they chose wasn't right for them. Many couples therapists are also generalists and haven't specifically trained to work with couples so it's also possible you didn't do the depth of work you needed to in therapy to see a profound change.

This always makes me feel sad as a therapist, because I know this particular couple didn't find out in time what the Power Struggle was, or the powerful tools in Imago Relationship Therapy they can learn to get the positivity and safety back into their relationship.