I don't work the way most couples therapists do.
1. I'm a couples therapist and a coach and I work in a very precise and concise way towards a clear goal.
For many couples in traditional couples therapy, you can find yourself coming to sessions week after week, not really knowing what you're working on, and how long it's going to take or how much it will cost.
I don't work like this.
When you sign up for a program with me, there's a clear goal, a clear path, and a clear, finite time and money commitment. We track your progress and I keep you accountable to becoming the best version of yourself.
2. I prefer to work with you in a 12-week program that's focused on the specific challenges you're facing in your relationship, and on a measurable, achievable outcome in 12 weeks.
(This is for couples who want results and want to heal their relationship in the fastest and most effective way. You're also welcome to come for fortnightly sessions and not be signed up to a program if this is what you want. You get to decide how deep and fast you want to go.)
Power Struggle to Peace is a 12-week program for couples who are in the Power Struggle – which is 99% of couples who contact me.
It's for couples who are struggling with:
– constant bickering and fighting
– anger displays
– a lack of warmth and understanding
– the love feels like it has gone.
Couples that work with me in program with a clear goal get the best results because:
Sadly, many couples who go to therapy drop out, saying...
"Couples therapy doesn't work for us."
These couples either struggle on together unhappily for years or decades, have an affair or file for divorce.
However, the actual problem was that in conventional couples therapy there's often a lack of clarity and direction.
What actually happened:
This always makes me feel sad as a therapist, because I know this couple didn't find out in time what the Power Struggle was...
...or that it's a logical, inevitable stage in all relationships...
and that, with the right tools, they can learn to get the positivity and safety back into their relationship.
What many couples don't understand is that the choice of your current partner is no coincidence.
You were attracted to and specifically chose this person because of certain traits – traits that you unconsciously sensed in some way carried the potential to hurt you in the exact same way you were hurt by your parents, or main caregivers from childhood.
In Imago Relationship Therapy we call this your 'Imago Match'.
Many couples don't know they still carry hurt (or unfinished business)from childhood into their adult romantic relationships.
It's usually around a theme of wanting to be loved, accepted, prioritised, or celebrated in a way you longed to be as a child, but weren't.
At this point you have the choice to either divorce and repeat this pattern again (which is inevitable if you haven't done the work to heal it...
...or to make the whole process you're in conscious, and learn the skills to cultivate a loving conscious relationship.
This is what I call a 'Peaceful Couple', born out of the Power Struggle.
If you're a couple who is willing to do the work and be totally 'in', you can elevate your relationship beyond anything you thought possible, wildly and totally. Even after an affair.
If there has been an affair and you're both committed to coming back together, my Power Struggle to Power Couple (After An Affair)6-month program provides the much needed extra time commitment and space for us to support you two in coming back from this. Ask me about this.
For couples on the brink of separation, or who know they need to make a big change, fast. This is your chance to finally find peace in your relationship.
See what's inside the program >>
Mastermind for couples who have completed the 3-month Power Struggle to Peace program and want to build a conscious partnership.
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