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Has your relationship lost its passion or one of you has had an affair? I help people who feel stuck in their relationship get back into connection.
Your unconscious beliefs and destructive patterns are driving your relationship struggles. I help you develop new, healthy ones and make dating fun again.
As a trained therapist in many modalities, I can help you work through relationship issues, anxiety, depression and neurodiversity in relationships.
If your relationship is characterised by fighting, blaming, bickering, silences, distractions, and even threats to leave or an affair, don't give up hope and don't settle.
Read my book to understand what's really going on and what to do to get things back on track. A definitive guide and personal account of how to get through the often painful second stage of your relationship, the Power Struggle, and build a truly profound loving connection with your partner.
Far too many of us are putting up with sub-standard, painful relationships, so I really enjoyed talking to Brainz Magazine for their Valentine's Edition about the Power Struggle stage of relationships and what you need to know about it to avoid divorce and/or settling for less than you deserve.
To exit the Power Struggle you must first understand what it is, which is just a stage on the way to real, true love. You can learn how to master this stage (without going to couples therapy)by reading my book, Power Struggle to Peaceful Couple.
After using Imago Relationship Therapy to repair and revive my own 13+ year relationship, I began using it with my clients, online and in person. It just works.
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I help individuals manage their anxiety, insecurities and fear around relationships. I offer weekly in-person therapy in Otley, Harrogate, or online from anywhere in the world.
Book a free 15-minute consultation with me.
It works if you are both committed to making it work. Many of us are sold a story about love that simply isn't true. Love is not a destination that you arrive at. And it's not a prize that you win. Love is a daily practice. It involves compromise on both sides. It involves listening – really listening – to what your partner needs, and becoming a team.
Whether you're looking for couples therapy, individual therapy or dating coaching, we will chat about what your struggles are right now, and what has led up to them. I will offer my thoughts on how to move forward, with or without my support. You will come away with a larger perspective on your situation, and some actionable next steps.
If you are in the Harrogate, Ilkley or Leeds area, I offer weekly or fortnightly couples therapy in-person in Harrogate or in Otley, or online via Zoom. I offer a free 30-minute consultation over video chat or the phone, during which you'll get a feel for what it's like to work with me. I can assess your needs and work out if we're a good fit for weekly or fortnightly sessions.
I work with couples who want a fundamental and long-lasting change in the way they relate to one another. If you want to put a short-term sticking plaster on your relationship, I'm probably not the therapist for you.
If you're a single woman looking for a dating coach, I facilitate the deep inner work that often needs to be done around beliefs and boundary setting. However, I can also provide the practical advice around dating apps and a dating strategy. Whether you're coming back to dating after a divorce, getting over a painful breakup or building your confidence, I can help you make dating lighthearted and fun again.