If infidelity, conflict or emotional disconnection has shaken your relationship, you don't need generic counselling. You need structured, specialist couples therapy that helps you decide whether to repair, rebuild, or part with clarity. In-person sessions in Yorkshire; online worldwide.
Curious if we're a fit? Book a free 15-minute call with me today.
It's rarely about the dishes, the sex, or who left the socks on the floor. The real problem is the "stance–stance–dance" pattern underneath.
A stance is what you do when you feel threatened — your automatic way of protecting yourself. When your stance meets your partner's, you lock into a dance that takes over.
One of the most common? Some flavour of "Pursue–withdraw". The harder one of you pushes, the faster the other one retreats. Round and round you go until you're both exhausted and miles apart.
My role is to name your pattern clearly, show you the consequences of staying stuck in it, and coach you to start making new moves to rebuild trust and intimacy.
You want closeness? You've got to earn it – by doing something different. That's the work.
To see if we're a good fit to work together, book a free 15-minute consultation with me today.
Too much talk. Not enough change. Therapists let couples "explore their feelings" while they keep hurting each other. Insight feels good but it isn't the same as change.
You don't get a better relationship by understanding the problem - you get it by practising the new moves, over and over, until safety and trust return. That's exactly why I use the Imago technique - not for talk, but for real change.
Want to see if we're a good fit to work together?
It works if you are both committed to making it work. Many of us are sold a story about love that simply isn't true. Love is not a destination that you arrive at. And it's not a prize that you win. Love is a daily practice. It involves compromise on both sides. It involves listening – really listening – to what your partner needs, and becoming a team.
Whether you're looking for couples therapy, individual therapy or dating coaching, we will chat about what your struggles are right now, and what has led up to them. I will offer my thoughts on how to move forward, with or without my support. You will come away with a larger perspective on your situation, and some actionable next steps.
If you are in the Harrogate, Ilkley or Leeds area, I offer weekly or fortnightly couples therapy in-person in Otley or in Harrogate, or online via Zoom. I offer a free 15-minute consultation over video chat or the phone, during which you'll get a feel for what it's like to work with me. I can assess your needs and work out if we're a good fit for weekly or fortnightly sessions.
I work with couples who want a fundamental and long-lasting change in the way they relate to one another. If you want to put a short-term sticking plaster on your relationship, I'm probably not the therapist for you.
