[As seen on the BBC's Points of View, Metro.co.uk and LA Weekly] Helping couples on the brink of divorce heal from betrayal, conflict, emotional disconnection and loss of physical intimacy, with couples therapist and Affair Recovery Specialist Shan Merchant. Available to couples in-person in Yorkshire, and worldwide on Zoom.
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Has your relationship or marriage been rocked by betrayal, conflict, or under strain from emotional distance or loss of physical intimacy? I help people who feel alone in their relationship get back into connection in order to heal – together.
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If your relationship is characterised by fighting, blaming, bickering, silences, distractions, and even threats to leave or an affair, don't give up hope and don't settle.
Read my book to understand what's really going on and what to do to get things back on track. A definitive guide and personal account of how to get through the often painful second stage of your relationship, the Power Struggle, and build a truly profound loving connection with your partner.
I was asked by the BBC to review the 4th series of the popular BBC show 'Couples Therapy' on their Points of View programme – it's now on BBC iPlayer (the episode aired on 20 / 10 / 24).
I love that the 'Couples Therapy' show gives ordinary people a taste of what couples therapy is really like. We see some real New York couples of all ages bravely working through their issues and showing a lot of vulnerability.
Vulnerability and openness is what it takes to come back together – and the Imago method can achieve that for you!
Far too many of us are putting up with sub-standard, painful relationships, so I really enjoyed talking to Brainz Magazine for their Valentine's Edition about the Power Struggle stage of relationships and what you need to know about it to avoid divorce and/or settling for less than you deserve.
To exit the Power Struggle you must first understand what it is, which is just a stage on the way to real, true love. You can learn how to master this stage (without going to couples therapy)by reading my book, Power Struggle to Peaceful Couple.
After using Imago Relationship Therapy to repair and revive my own 16+ year relationship, I began using it with my clients, online and in person. It just works.
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It works if you are both committed to making it work. Many of us are sold a story about love that simply isn't true. Love is not a destination that you arrive at. And it's not a prize that you win. Love is a daily practice. It involves compromise on both sides. It involves listening – really listening – to what your partner needs, and becoming a team.
Whatever reason you're looking for couples therapy, we will chat about what your struggles are right now, and what has led up to them. I will offer my thoughts on how to move forward, with or without my support. You will come away with a larger perspective on your situation, and some actionable next steps.
If you are in the Harrogate, Ilkley or Leeds area, I offer weekly or fortnightly couples therapy in-person in Harrogate or in Otley, or online via Zoom. I offer a free 15-minute consultation over Zoom or the phone, during which you'll get a feel for what it's like to work with me. I can assess your needs and work out if we're a good fit for weekly or fortnightly sessions.
I work with couples who want a fundamental and long-lasting change in the way they relate to one another. If you want to put a short-term sticking plaster on your relationship, I'm probably not the therapist for you.
